Being a Woman

In the era of technology, everyone has a mobile phone and a social media account. Holding a social media account is seen as a status symbol for some reasons. Though media has reached nook and corner of this world, voice out our opinions, it has also became a threat for many. Anyone can defame anyone in the platform and it is done without any irk. We look down on a person who uses unparliamentary language in public but not in the virtual world. The anonymity has given the courage to say or judge a person and simply move on without a shame.  <picture credit: Google> A man who is shy, with a social media account, he stalks women, send dirty pictures or messages. I'm not lying, this happens everyday with every woman but we simply ignore. At least that's what every other 'good' men suggest to do. 'Why do you create a fuss out of it? You have the option to block him right away. This is not worth discussing'. These are comments from many common men when I quoted ...

In many public forums, many ask what is Feminism and why do you all still voicing for it while you are enjoying the privileges in this modern community?  To be honest, we are moving like a snail towards women empowerment. I'll boldly say, there is gender discrimination everywhere so we should be talking more of this Feminism anywhere possible. Even in common households, the gender discrimination exists and we cannot deny the reality. The personal questions a woman face during an interview is very different from what a man hears. My promotion or hike depends on how far am I from going on maternity leave.  I'll give you an example from where the sexism starts, when I was a kid, we had mostly spent our summer holidays in my grandparents' house along with my cousins. I'm the only girl child in my mother's side. At certain age, after the meal, I was told to clean up the dishes while my cousins were asked to drop the plates in the sink. I questioned my mother why is it ju...

One of the joyous occasion in life is when we bring that little bundle of happiness to this world. Everyone around are happy and takes at most care of the baby and the mother. But sometimes this care and concerns they raise are overwhelming for mother. Most of us are so concerned about the baby that we forget how much pressure we put on the mother itself. Image credit: Google images What to expect as first time mother? I already spoke about the  baby blues  and other emotional stress that new moms go through in one of my articles. Here I'm to walk through most of the questions and dilemmas that I faced handling a new born. When I had my daughter, I had no clue on what I should be doing. One thing I was sure about is to breastfeed her at least for a year even though I wasn't aware of its benefits (This was because my mom told me so before she passed away). I had many relatives around who helped me but everyone had many concerns and suggestions which made my head swing....

We have come to a point where we want to choose the best mom. First of all, how do we define a mother? How should we measure the love she has for her kids? What are the metrics? I'm a full time working professional who works from home throughout the week. I have a kid to take care without any help. So I can put myself under STAH and career oriented. So I'm qualified enough to write this article and bring out the reality. Let's try an experiment with 2 families. One with both the parents working and the other has the father working while the mother is staying at home taking care of kids. Now, if you ask the kid of a working mother whether you want your mother to spend more time with you. The kid will definitely say yes. But if you ask whether you want your mother to quit her job and spend more time with you, the kid will say no. Likewise, if you ask the other kid of STAH mom, whether you always want your mom with or she can take a job. The kid will say she can do whatev...

Hello Mamma's! Baby blues! such a fancy name isn't it? Many doesn't know what it means or chose to ignore about it totally. It is definitely a memorable occasion when we bring a new life into this world. Everyone are happy, there are smiles and baby cries everywhere. What happens to the mother? How does she feel? How is she taking the environment and changes? Not a single soul cares. 50 - 80% of women go through this phase. Not just our body is going through immense changes but so as our mood and emotions. Society adds up to the pressure, as usual! Auntie visiting us to see the baby would put lot more questions in mind like "Haven't you lost your baby weight yet?, Your tummy looks big, Are you producing enough milk for the baby?, Your baby is so lean, you should top feed" and what not ladies! We start finding answers for them and eventually feel down. The whole circle is affected. Postpartum is a very challenging phase to deal with. You need immens...

Yet another horrific incident and we are still being negligible about Women's safety. Naming the victim as 'India's daughter' only glorifies the crime committed. Many around us are telling how to safeguard ourselves in such situations, how to be careful, how not to engage men, how to dress, how to behave and how to give in and avoid death. SERIOUSLY? Stop preaching us what to do. Not a single politician really acknowledges the failure of safeguarding women and start thinking about addressing the issue in hand. Do you think a 6 month old should be aware of the situation and dress appropriately to avoid being raped? Wearing a sleeveless or a Saree or even a bikini is not the problem. If less cloth provokes a man, then he is morally unstable. A woman is not provoked when she sees a guy in a trouser but why are you? Why are you men provoked on seeing a woman breastfeeding her child? Is it because you took it for granted that breasts are for your sexual pleasure? STUPID...